“Forgive all who have offended you, not for them, but for yourself.”

we hold this truth to be self evident

If only!

I don't understand, she doesn't want or can't believe the offender can benefit from the offended's forgiveness? Wouldn't it be a mutual all pervasive pleasantness if we might believe all benefit from the forgiveness? Not fully understanding this quote possibly, but we are not here to necessarily win the situation but to resolve the problematic circumstance.