What's being missed here is the understanding of karma. If you can make your peace with a man despite his deeds, open your heart to him in friendship in order to help him on his path to bliss you are fulfilling your role in the pattern of the universe. If this man is not enlightened enough to embrace your friendship and strikes you down despite your offer of love then he is not ready to walk the path and must spend more time learning but your next life will take you closer to nirvana because you have grown. This isn't any different than "turning the other cheek" with the promise of heaven regardless of the outcome or the meek inheriting the earth. Some people just want to argue, which is ironic when the argument begins over wisdom regarding peace.